Tuesday, December 21, 2010

if this life doesn't kill me... she surely will! :)

Wow.. Sondra is really really testing me...I'm at the end of my rope as to what to do with her or how to punish her. I have yet to find in niche in what fazes her for discipline. Spanking spoon has lost it's touch. Spanking her butt...does little to be desired. She has started this thing after you tell her something and she makes this noise..HUH..so its like she is getting in the last word...It drives me crazy. It is so ugly! When she talks back or sasses me...I tell her "Little Girls do not talk like that". then if she doesn't stop I'll smack her mouth. I do not like screaming at her so I try to take a cue from Duggar family how you always see the Mom staying calm. I'm really trying that. You know that verse in the bible that talks about Love is patient love is kind..and so forth....whenever I catch myself losing it with her those words just pop up in my head and then I feel guilty... LOVE IS PATIENT JOIE.... ....Maybe I'll try time out or corner. at Amanda's she goes to the corner. I'll spank when it calls it but the first road to discipline will be a warning..corner..and then spanking!... Now I'll just get Jake on board. We both have been running ideas with each other as to what to do... sometime i just throw my hands up in the air and go..what do I do...either way..I understand she is 3 years old and her world revolves around her...and how dare I to not cater to her or give her everything she wants....that is how she thinks and sometime I need to stop and understand that..and ask myself..which battles mean the most...you have to pick your battles with this age..and I am having hard time doing so..
the funny thing with Sondra she can be in such a mood..and then 2 minutes later...she is happy and past whatever she didn't get. I love the girl so much. My favorite part of the day with her is before bed. We lay on my bed and I read a book or usually books to her... it always has to be at least one...but usually its 2 or 3. She loves the stories.
Word to the wise. I have learned in the past year or so to not parent other people's kids when they are right there. It is not your job-get their parents. Sondra has given me a very stressful weekend..and as you can imagine I heard low grumblings of people staring and I know what they were thinking- that girl needs her butt beat and what not... I'm their Mom..you better bet your gonna bite your tongue and stay out of it..b.c. Just as bad as I know she is- She is my girl and I know what a lovely she really is...and I'll hurt anyone who tries to say she isn't...i feel like I may just blow up on a unsuspecting rude person... she just has these big emotions and this personality that doesn't align with the obedient personality. and I like hearing the encouragement of people saying someday this will pay off and how she won't be a follower..and that stuff...but raising such a stubborn child...does take it's toll..
the bad words have slowed down... which I am thankful for.. she said one on Saturday..but I have heard her say it before I know where she has got that from. She got a adjustment and a reminder that other kids may say that but "WE" do not..
So..here is another reason why I won't win the mommy of the year award... so with Stuart I hold him a lot more than I did Sondra..if that is even possible.. but I let him play on the floor and stuff...but the other day..I sat him up just to see if he could..and low and behold.. he can sit up pretty good..which makes me wonder...how long he has been able to do that... lol... i hate that he is growing and doing new things...I want him to stay small forever he is such a good little boy..I'm hoping he is a mellow quiet kid unlike his sister...I need a break...
Sondra had her Christmas program at church on Sunday..she was very funny..she knew her part so well..but when the time came...she couldn't say it..mom told her to stand behind the other sheep and then she said it... my little lady is growing up!...
well Keep me and my family in your prayers... I'll update again this week ;)..
  

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